The origin of Snakes and Ladders
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Expect some cracks about microaggresions, PC culture, safe spaces and other bullshit. Gaslighting is very, very real. I experience despair when I think how incredibly stupid people still are in about this stuff. The OP says that the boss makes jokes about poor people.
Please explain to us why failing at making small talk makes you a victim of classism. I cannot fathom how you intend to make that argument. I also make far less than anyone else in my office, but we frequently have things to talk about and enjoy going to happy hour sometimes.
We complain about work and bad managers, we talk about pets and families, we discuss weekend plans, etc. If their house sprang a plumbing leak, hey! What did you look for in a boat, specs-wise? Hmm, this is an interesting perspective. If all you did was watch Netflix all weekend while they were out in the Hamptons, so what?
I sure as hell talk about TV a lot at work, no matter what topic the other person has brought up. Another gem from Buzzfeed: His comments are gross and he is way out of line and I hope you find a better job soon. I stitched this pattern for a friend: I think of it every time someone tells me I look angry. I started going around with a vague half smile on my face, which manager thought was great. Speaking from personal experience here.
I also have to remind myself not to Stride With Purpose around blind corners or else I stride right into people. The running joke is we need to install a couple of those convex mirrors you see on blind road corners and stuff. I mean, the one downside is that I take corners too quickly and almost walk into people.
But the manager who called me out on it said other people thought it made me intimidating and unapproachable. But that just means we should keep an eye out when going around corners! Your boss was totally out of line suggesting that a confidant walk makes you intimidating and unapproachable.
Was she a model for petite clothing? Because otherwise, I can think of no reasonable or acceptable explanation for this. No, she works for some big corporation.
Apparently her height made her too intimidating. There were other reasons. Some were legit I had been trying to leave the job for over a year and was not all that engaged with things any more and some, like the smiling and the posture, were just ridiculous. It has nothing to do with you or the quality of your work ideas, etc. I get this sometimes too. My face is frowny when I concentrate. A friend called me out on it years ago I never realized that I had a thundercloud of a frown going when I was working on something.
You are also immune to these effects; your audience is smiling because they like it, right? I inherited my RBF from my mom, who was also a novice guitarist. This could have been written about my old boss. Except I was the only female working there. I would never, ever work for a small organization again. I mean, I have always struggled with my body image and self-perception, and if someone said that to me I would lock myself in a bathroom stall and cry for the rest of the day!
So glad you left. So glad I left there. Years ago, hubby and I visited my MIL. No greeting for me or her son , nope. First full-time job out of college was for a guy who ran a business from his house with me, a friend of his, and a couple interns.
Who, BTW, was his third wife, and less than half his age. When you move on from this job, do not be shy about spreading the word about this ass boss wherever you can — among your personal network, review sites, that sort of thing.
I can see that you might have a hard time seeing how weird this is, if people have been telling you to do this before. But the fact remains, it is weird and it is definitely his problem, not yours. You have every right to act weirded out, because he should be embarrassed. Overall, this boss sounds like a jerk, but something jumps out at me — clients are commenting on her RBF. That is a huge issue if she works in any kind of customer-facing role.
My husband is in upper management and is trying to groom one of his GMs for promotion, but she has bad RBF. Like, they get customer service complaints.
BTW, this would also be an issue with a man. In fact, she gets compliments on how warm and friendly she is. This is NOT a customer service problem. Look, the OP undeniably has a horrible boss. However, people in other working environments have been telling her for a decade that she has RBF, and clients comment on it to her right now.
An ex-coworker had a birthmark on her hand that looked like a bruise and got inquiries about it all the time. This is her face. Sure, she can make a point to smile with clients, but it sounds like she does try to do that. I feel for both your physical and emotional suffering. It would be more empathetic to not mention something like a stomach growl, but unfortunately, our society is not very emotionally literate. People are always cruelly joking about hasenpfeffer rabbit stew when they learn I have rescued house rabbits as dear family members.
Would they ask someone if they were planning to eat their child? Is it so hard to just not comment? I have RBF because I have dark, heavy brows that are low over my eyes, and very thin lips. I do wonder, and I mean this in the most genuine way possible, how do you groom someone on this topic? And would you groom a man in the same way as a woman, or does it only come up with women? But he is not the only one making comments. Other managers and coworkers have commented on it. For instance, when someone walks up to you, look at them for a split second, then let a smile slowly come to your face.
The message delivered is: Did we read the same letter? This train of conversation is about her personal anecdote about her husband coaching a direct report for a future promotion, not addressing the letter.
I do know that he has counseled men on their interactions with customers for a variety of reasons, some of them for appearing mean or intimidating. Funny enough, he also had one guy he had to coach for being too timid and not speaking up so customers could hear him. I am putting things the way he puts them to me, over the dinner table. Also, just to point out, my husband has a lot of gay employees.
Women are disproportionately made to believe they have RBF; it seems to be quite rare with men. But women are much more likely to be called out for it, because sexist expectations. Agree completely, which is funny because presentation trainers will often school middle-aged men on how they need to be aware that their neutral expression makes them look dour due to the effects of gravity.
I think the rules are different for when you are giving a presentation or speech vs. According to computer analysis, men and women are equally likely to have RBF, but surprise surprise women are more likely to be penalized for it: Look, the OP has had numerous people tell her, for years, that she looks angry or upset. Looking angry all the time takes a toll on relationships, personal and professional. We read more into body language and expression than we do into actual spoken language. That is a legit calculation to make.
But I am just trying to say that if tons of people have brought this up, than it could be something to at least consider. And, yes, she has a terrible boss. The thing is, though, that zillions of women have had people tell them, for years, that they look angry or upset. Consider it and do… what, exactly?
It looks like she goes out of her way to be friendly and pleasant and provides a quick, pleasant explanation to customers when she accidentally drops the smile. Men do get this feedback; the difference IME is that the bar for a woman getting it is lower. Your boss is terrible. Expect your boss to make YOUR fault. Before someone waltzes in to say that telling someone to smile is nice and why would anyone be upset by it:.
It is not okay. Your boss sounds like a jackwagon and an awful person. I hope you get out of there soon. Or, even better, the guy somehow gets fired. A fake smile is not going to improve your mood from the inside anyway. Surface acting has been found to exhaust people, simply because putting on a different face for eight hours every day requires a lot of mental energy. I was so completely unsurprised when I read this article, but I appreciate that people are writing and thinking about it: I thought that was pretty awesome on his part.
Though the time I got angriest was when a customer told me I should smile more — after she spent a good 5 minutes screaming and insulting me. I wanted to tell her where to stick that smile. Needless to say, stroking his ego was at the bottom of my list of priorities that day.
Full story in the middle paragraph here: The last time I was told to smile by a stranger was on the third day of a local convention. I had an unhealed sprain injury that was immensely painful and could barely walk. He seemed surprised when I did not smile, and even more surprised when I pretty much growled at him. I recently had to leave work and join my husband at the vet to put our cat to sleep.
On the train ride there, I was crying and looking sad. If someone had told me to smile, I fear I may have punched them in the face. The last comment is so true. A huge bulk of the stories that Allison posts here come from people who work at tiny 3-person companies. Yep, at the federal level those laws kick in at 15 employees.
Discrimination and sexual harassment are verboten at organizations of all sizes. Could it also be that jerks self-select for these places? I am also side-eyeing the fact his only employees are female and that OP is so young. Often the people with the money to start a business are spoiled and used to getting everything they want and having people kiss their asses because of that money.
A lot of egotistical jackwagons really want to be entrepreneurs because they wanna be in chaaarge and because they want the attention and accolades. Entrepreneurial culture glorifies pushiness, macho posturing, jerk behavior, and cutthroat competition.
Years ago, I was in a three-person office and I was so unhappy: There was no place to hide from these people and it was extremely obvious we were not getting along. I bailed after eight months and I told myself I would never work in such a small office again. Years later, I was temping in three-person office…and it was a wonderful experience with hard-working, respectful, dedicated people.
No egos, no flying by the seats of their pants. Part of the problem is that the owners see their business as personal income before they see it as a business and they make decisions based on this. Right or wrong, small business owners are always looking out for themselves first. Also, people who start a business often do so because they totally love doing that thing and want to devote basically their entire life to it…and just kind of assume employees will be thrilled to do the same.
The owner was the sweetest, kindest, most gentle person ever, and understood cash flow very well -but she did NOT know how to manage the rest of the business when I started, and still had trouble managing people two locations later.
She finally learned with the daycare she opened a year later, especially how to put her foot down with clients. I had an ex-boss, who was a lot more hostile than yours, constantly commenting on it.
This is also the case for your height, weight, hair color, skin color, ethnicity, etc. Or you could do what the Broad City ladies do: Haha, I just commented above -I do the wrinkle brow too. I expect a kindergartener to take some time mastering this concept, but an adult should have figured it out already.
At least seeing their face of horror would be funny. In junior high some dudebro on the school bus asked her why she talked so deep. I have done something similar to this to strangers on the street when they tell me to smile. Tucking it away to use next time!
I have enormous eyes that sit a bit close together. And if you flat out reject one, you can expect a barrage of disgusting, nasty responses. I rely on headphones a lot, too. This shit is draining, and, sometimes, the best thing you can do is save your energy and not waste any more of it dealing with jerks than you have to.
That exhaustion, I suspect, is a feature, not a bug, of how the patriarchy works, but, dang, just surviving it to kick butt another day is valuable. It feels like the right combination of dismissiveness and sarcasm for what I want. Another addition to my imaginary collection of AAM-ism prints. I will definitely agree that it can be a huge asset! It spares me so much unwanted attention. I work in a fairly casual, friendly environment.
Most staff are around my age very young, relatively fresh out of college, etc. I have the same issue, but not with a boss. People always feel free to come up to me and tell me to either a smile more or b talk more. Do you ever talk? I want to have a conversation with someone which includes back and forth dialog. Reply, in slight boring monotone: We were talking about it at work once, and all the guys were surprised to hear that it happens to women as often as it does.
Must be a different circle then. None of my friends are like this. IIRC, women are just people with a different chromosome. When I sat back to think about it, I realized I know LOTS of guys who have perpetually neutral or even grumpy faces, but I rarely make the same assumption based on that. The notion that women should be perpetually upbeat is incredibly pervasive, despite it not being explicitly stated. My husband is an avowed feminist but even he catches himself and his friends sometimes in erroneous lines of thinking.
But the men who DO think that way, and who DO make those comments? They do it a LOT, all day long, every day of the week. And, of course, there are lots of women who think that way too. In fact, our comfort at being around men who think like you is actually behind our growing impatience with guys like Ass Boss.
We know it can be done—you guys are proving it. And now we want guys like Ass Boss to get with the program. Honestly I would have no issues if more women started putting people like him in his place.
Its really difficult to break through to people that view everything through the gender duality lense. Because having sex is all they can envision doing with a woman, they think that everybody who is trying to break that stereotype is trying to score some lay or a wuss. We live in a society that socializes people to have bias; good people need to acknowledge that and learn about how they can counter it. The Harvard Implicit Bias Test is a pretty interesting thing for anyone who wants to explore this in themselves: I took the Harvard implicit bias test and was really distressed to find out that despite all my good liberal sensibilities, I have some serious racial biases.
Katie, I saw your note that you misplaced this comment so I moved it for you and in the process caused all kinds of weird technical errors, which I think are now fixed, but I wanted to explain that if you saw them during the process.
Yesssss, same, it really disturbed me when I took it a couple years ago. I took this once and was really dismayed to find out that despite my good liberal sensibilities I have a lot of racial bias. Its a more then a little shocking actually. I always thought of myself as really non biased when it comes to race, because the thought of that being a thing never entered my mind. I think the most important thing is being aware. Also, consistently picking apart the thing that leads you to that bias.
You really gotta dig in to the basis for the stereotypes you see bandied about, rather than just rolling your eyes and dismissing them when you hear one. Even a seemingly neutral one. Group [x] all like watermelon. You see someone of Group X eating watermelon, and it almost automatically reinforces the unconscious bias that you have. Critical thinking path s — Okay, is it really true that all X like watermelon? Is it limited to just Group X?
Just about everyone I know likes watermelon. So why is it attributed so strongly to Group X? Does Group X actually eat more than most? If so, why might that be? Initial or current availability? Are there other groups known for what they eat? Why is this different? If you pick apart the stereotype, you start to get to a point where you realize that the watermelon thing comes from a commonly bandied about image of watermelon and fried chicken and — ready for it?
But by emphasizing those 2, which are, yes, popular, the implication of the negatives is passed along with it.
Despite the fact that there is actually no specific correlation of those things negatives among either the general population or Group X.
And in fact, making good fried chicken takes quite a bit of work thank you. Oh, and watermelon for dessert is actually a ton healthier than most things people have for dessert. The more stereotypes you can run down and destroy the underpinnings of in your own mind, the less you are likely to be influenced by them going forward.
But I find just asking myself will often pull me out of my assumptions. Like, reading bios of Martin Luther King or Langston Hughes or watching amazing black actors or athletes or etc. Everyone gets a base line of respect. Whether they gain more or lose it is on their individual actions. For me, this keeps the focus on the person and not their bloodline or other uncontrollable factors.
Everyone is a person and deserved to be treated with basic decency. If I treat or think of an individual otherwise, it will be because of what they did, not because of where they are from.
The exposure to positive portrayals would explain a few things about how I think. My first exposures to all kinds of not-white-middle-class stuff was through books. Elizabeth Blackwell, and a host of others. Strong, capable, intelligent people who stood up and faced down opposition and trials, and accomplished great things. I am also firmly convinced that prejudice and bigotry hold back the human race, not just socially, but in hard advancements that are ignored or never developed because of the body holding the fantastic mind.
The Harvard Implicit Bias Test was a little saddening and very enlightening. It has definitely made me more aware of how I unconsciously react around people of other races. Women are socialized to be the social grease that makes life run better for all of these people, regardless of gender. My husband managed to make it to his early 30s before learning that yes, randos mostly male will approach strange women on the street and tell them to smile.
So most men never see it happen. My boyfriend was shocked when I told him I had just got catcalled on the way to meeting him. I mean, to the point that when a project manager called me one morning with a question and heard that, she said it was too early for me to sound that cheerful. Hahahahah, I have one of those too. I too have a RBF.
My problem is one of my employees continues to remark on it, even though I have told her not to. What will it take to remind you not to? I just stared at her remember, headache.
She apoligized and we closed the meeting. No more comments though. I think I finally got through to her. RBF works better in some fields than others. Is this really a three person company though? The OP just says that there are only two employees under her boss. I took that to read that she was in a three person department — not a three person company — and overall her company was pretty small.
According to his standards, he only hires women he would also have an affair with. They have to put up with him being flirty all the time, and responding negatively to it will get them fired. I hope multiple people file lawsuits due to retaliation against addressing sexual harassment concerns. Would probably be well founded. I feel deeply sorry for these women. One of the dysfunctional small businesses I worked for was run by a creep who did this and ended up pleading nolo contendere to assault.
Look at what the ordinances and such have to say. The council passed an ordinance. A rather interesting effect was two managers at different convenience stores that lost their jobs; apparently the conviction meant they were ineligible to work for the company.
Both were local news. So if you arrive 8. DOL would be interested. Its not worth it. He also has an intense dislike for non-attractive women not men for some reason.
You absolutely get to feel this. And you may want to take those feelings to a lawyer. Oh, I had this boss too. He also made me do his ironing for him and shine his shoes this had absolutely nothing to do with my job.
Facial expressions do influence emotions. A neutral face is just a neutral face, even if it is perceived to be angry. Yes, possibly there is debate about whether that notion is actually true, research cited above notwithstanding but whether or not someone wants to feel happier from smiling is their own business, not for someone else to decide. Most people have a neutral expression when they work. I want to see a study of whether frowning or furrowing your brows, pursing your lips, etc.
There is a bit in the movie A Million Ways to Die in the West where they are laughing about a guy they had heard of that was smiling in a photo — and how crazy he must have been. In order to smile in a photo you would have to hold it for a super long time — so he would have to be crazy. It is also a good way of illustrating that if you just sit there smiling all day you look like a loon. Actually, the long exposure explanation is a bit of a myth.
The long exposure times were only for extremely early cameras and the not smiling persisted well beyond the adoption of better cameras with quicker exposures. The real reason is that people back then thought that smiling in a photo made you look silly or undignified. They wanted their photo to look like a painted portrait. In fact, there are some parts of the world in modern times in which smiling for the camera is rare.
Came here to say this and even early portraits only required a max of 30 seconds on a bad day. The second exposure time just feels like forever. Proud owner of a super frowny RBF and a great collection of 19th Century photos with smiles: Welp, better prop her up in the pic anyway, we never got one of her when she was alive.
See also this frankly adorable series of photos: Just commenting to add my personal experience. So I was able to say that to him in a lighter tone and in a friendly way, but he still got the picture.
My mom had to say this once. You look so tired! Ew, ew, ew, and more EW! Creeper red flags are waving around this guy like crazy. Serious note though, is there no one above him that you can go to? That would be my first stop as I also work in a small office where there is no HR readily available. I female have had my female boss tell me to smile more. Our department was going through a somewhat difficult time, and she commented that I looked too serious during our annual company meetings.
My female manager once told me to use more emojis in my written communications so that my tone appeared warmer… even though I write the same way as my male counterparts. No, but I hear it from women all the time, usually ones in service positions like cashiers or waitresses. My eyebrows naturally slant downward which, apparently, gives me a sad-looking natural expression. I only hear it from women: This is very interesting, as I have never heard of men getting this treatment. Although, I am sorry you have to deal with it too.
Smiling in response to any and all emotions is not great. So, when you get told Smile! The real problem with that is: The bus runs into a wall and Gordon briefly blacks out, only to awake moments later and find Essen holding Batman at gunpoint. She is momentarily distracted when she turns to ask if he is all right and Batman takes advantage to disarm her and flee into an abandoned building.
When cops arrive on the scene, the commissioner is quick to call in the trigger-happy Branden and his squad to drop a bomb on the building, which the Commissioner claims has already been scheduled for demolition. While dodging the fire from the explosion, Batman's belt which contained explosives catches fire, and he is forced to discard it. After suffering two dizzying gun wounds, Batman escapes into the secure basement and survives the blast.
A crowd gathers outside the building. Stuck with only a blow gun and 3 darts, Batman uses a small device in his boot to summon thousands of bats from his cave to the building.
A battle occurs as the police storm into the building and hunt him down. He incapacitates some and even saves a cat, jumping out of the building after throwing a police officer forcefully through a wall and takes advantage of the chaos that occurs when the bat colony arrives to speed away on a police motorcycle and escape.
Gordon has a brief affair with Essen. During the affair, he is confronted by the Commissioner, who threatens to inform his wife of the affair if he doesn't comply. Gordon, after bringing his wife to an interview with Bruce Wayne, whom he and others suspect of being Batman, stops the car in the driveway on the way back and tells her about his affair.
Essen later leaves for New York. Months pass and Batman overhears the local mafia boss, Carmine Falcone , planning revenge against Gordon. Selina Kyle, frustrated because she feels her petty crimes aren't enough, interferes and attacks the group.
Batman does not appear, but helps Selina from the shadows, throwing small bat-shaped blades laced with tranquilizers at some of the men. Bruce, while working out, figures out the plan based on the part of the conversation he was able to record.
Gordon is called away by the police to investigate a robbery. On his way out, a mysterious motorist entering his garage raises Gordon's suspicions, as Gordon has never seen the motorist. He returns to the garage only to find his wife and baby being pulled into a car.
He shoots and kills the men trying to take his wife, who survives; however, one assailant is unharmed. The car leaves with Gordon's baby in it, and Gordon shoots the motorist, takes his motorcycle and follows.
The motorist, Bruce, is unharmed thanks to a bullet-proof vest. He attempts to leave, but not before Barbara threatens to shoot him. She lets him go when he promises to save her baby, takes a bicycle from a passing stranger, and pursues Gordon and the car.
Gordon shoots out a wheel on the car and it crashes into the side of a bridge. The don's hired knife, his nephew, exits the car, baby in hand. A struggle ensues and the baby is thrown off the bridge, followed by Gordon. However, Bruce had already arrived and dived after the baby before Gordon even falls over the rail. Gordon, having lost his glasses in the struggle with the hitman, thanks Bruce whom he claims to not recognize due to his aforementioned missing glasses and makes it clear that he won't turn him in.
Dent and Batman's efforts bear fruit with Flass, who is persuaded to turn damaging states evidence against his superiors, including a disgraced Commissioner Loeb, who is forced to resign.
Although his immediate replacement, Grogan, is apparently worse, Gordon is content for the moment with receiving a job promotion and family counseling with his wife. The story ends with the new Captain Gordon waiting on the rooftop of the GCPD headquarters for Batman, to discuss somebody called The Joker and his scheme to poison the reservoir. The story also includes the first appearance of Mafia don Carmine Falcone. Year One was followed by Batman: Year Two , but the Zero Hour crossover erased it from continuity.
In another continuity re-arrangement, Catwoman: Year One Catwoman Annual 2, posited that Selina Kyle had not actually been a prostitute, but, rather, a thief posing as one in order to commit crimes. The story was continued in the graphic novel Batman: The Man Who Laughs , following up on Gordon informing Batman about the Joker, and thus recounting their first official encounter.
The Long Halloween and Batman: Dark Victory , two 13 issue limited series that recounted Batman's first, second, and third years as a crime-fighter, also re-telling of the origins of Two-Face and Dick Grayson. Launched in following the success of the film Batman , the title Legends of the Dark Knight examines crime-fighting exploits from the first three to four years of Batman's career.
This title rotated in creative teams and time placement, but several stories directly relate to the events of Year One , especially the first arc "Batman: It is unknown if Batman: The Dark Knight Returns , its sequel Batman: Needless to say, of these only Year One is considered to be part of mainstream DC continuity.
Darren Aronofsky was going to direct a film adaptation written by himself and Frank Miller. The project never received the greenlight by Warner Brothers because they found it to be too violent and with many differences with the comic. Ultimately the project resulted into Christopher Nolan 's Batman Begins. The first draft of the script has been leaked online, though only written by Miller. The film was one of many projects developed at the studio over the years on trying to get a fifth Batman installment.
Others listed included Batman Unchained , Batman: When asked how he might approach the Batman film series Aronofsky originally wanted to do an adaptation of The Dark Knight Returns , another one of Miller's acclaimed works. He expressed interest in casting Clint Eastwood as the aging Batman and filming it in Tokyo, doubling for Gotham City.
The studio was interested in the idea, though Aronofsky later changed his mind for an adaptation of Year One. Aronofsky would later go to work on Requiem for a Dream, while Warner Brothers was still hesitant for a film adaptation of Year One.
This included the Batman Beyond and Batman: DarKnight projects that eventually fell apart. After completing Requiem for a Dream , Aronofsky came back to the studio for the adaptation, and officially signing on in September He brought Frank Miller with him to write the script, whom the two previously collaborated on for an adaptation of Ronin.
Aronofsky also wanted to bring "an independent guerrilla flavor to it. Over the course on the project, Aronofsky claims that the film wasn't greenlighted because Warner Brothers found it to be too violent, citing that an R-rated Batman film wouldn't appeal to children. As such the director came up with an idea that they could make two separate films.
The studio ultimately turned down the concept.